I never expected owning my own business to be easy or that I’d be “luckier” than others.
I never expected that I’d win the lotto or be handed a golden spoon.
BUT, I have always expected of myself to figure it out, stay forward-focused and show up as the best version of myself.
Some days those expectations can be harder to keep than others. I get it.
Nothing really prepares you for some of the curve balls life throws your way. Like a year-long pandemic.
BUT, Big BUT… it’s also possible to stop a downward spiral and start spiraling upwards.
In fact, it’s scientifically proven that you have more control over the direction of your spiraling than you might think.
Here are 3 super simple and highly brilliant ways to start spiraling upward after you’ve compassionately given yourself a moment [such as 11 minutes or less] to rant, rave, weep, curse or just feel a little sorry for yourself.
#1. Go for a walk. [or do some type of physical movement]
Cold outside? Wear a hat. Leg in a cast? Move your arms. Need a big deep reason why? It changes your entire neuro-chemistry which helps you then change your attitude. Physical activity is one of the best medicinal responses to turning your spiral in a better direction.
#2. Socially connect.
An old-fashioned phone call, a “so-last-year” Facetime or a modern day Zoom call will help you feel less isolated and more grateful. Specifically for those folks in your life whom you can count on to be there when you need it. Pick someone who will totally support you no matter what you say, or pick someone who’s great at telling mildly inappropriate jokes that make you giggle. If there’s no one to call right now who can support you, call someone and support them. Being the uplifter uplifts you too.
#3. Put yourself in a compassionate time out.
Tell the world to take a hike and do something that truly brings you joy, amusement or serenity. Give yourself a chance to reset. The world really can wait while you get grounded again. Even if you can only do it for twelve minutes. Sometimes we just need to give ourselves permission to play hooky.
And if the pandemic blues have taken hold of you, you are not alone. Anxiety, depression, stress and burn-out are reaching epic proportions. It’s been a wild and woolly ride for millions, and yes, a harder ride for some than others. Own it. You’re human and allowed to feel like one.
If you truly are not in a place to help yourself by yourself, then help yourself by asking for help. Reaching out is brave and healthy. Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, neighbor, counselor or therapist. Seek help.
Downward spirals can happen. Upward spirals can happen too. Keep the faith. Most especially in yourself.
Cyber safe hugs,